Being a mom is the best and most difficult job in the world. There’s no time out, and the pay is, well, non-existent. But that doesn’t mean that parenting isn’t the most rewarding thing you will ever do, especially when you get to bask in the joy of those special magical moments. Despite the rewards, it is easy to end up becoming a stressed wreck – here’s how to be a chilled out and happy mom, no matter what gets thrown at you…
Plan, plan and then plan some more to make life much easier for you and the kids. Do your research to get the best diaper pails, feeding equipment and storage solutions. Allocate a place for everything, and make a point of picking up and putting away as you go. If you do this, you won’t be confronted with a tidal wave of mess that gives you a headache just to look at it! Asking older children to pitch in will lighten the load, and teach them valuable independence and coping skills.
Take time to recharge your batteries. You are not going to be the best parent you can be if you never have any time to yourself. We’re not talking a fortnight’s holiday here, but regular moments that are just for you to enjoy. Get a therapeutic massage, run yourself a hot bubble bath, grab a glass of wine and your favourite book, or teach yourself yoga. Try out different options to find out what works for you, and make a point of treating yourself regularly. The kids will appreciate you that little bit more, and you’ll be much more philosophical when your toddler has a screaming fit that wouldn’t be out of place in a horror film!
Don’t be afraid to ask for help from your partner, your family or your friends. In days gone by, it was considered entirely normal for a whole community to be involved in raising children. Mothers relied on the help of everyone around them to get the job done, and they were better off because of it. Today, we live in an increasingly insular society, in some cases having little or no contact with our neighbours.
Many of us have relocated, so we don’t necessarily have family members living nearby to lend a hand. However you get it, help is essential for the wellbeing of yourself and your children, and allows you to be a better mom. Parenting isn’t a test of doing everything right by yourself, and you won’t get any extra kudos for being a martyr!
Getting yourself and your home organised, rewarding yourself with time off, and getting a little help will all allow you to be the mom that your kids deserve. You owe it to yourself and your children to make life as great as it can be – so put these tips into practice today for a tomorrow that you can really look forward to. If you need extra help with de-stressing, there is plenty of advice to be found online on how busy moms can relax – what are you waiting for?